By Stuart H. Grozbean
violence has been around for a long time. Unfortunately, battered and
abused spouses were ignored until recent times when legislatures finally
woke up and enacted legislation to protect those who could not protect
No one and I
mean no one has the right to hit another.
There is no excuse and absolutely no reason
that anyone should have to suffer from
violence and humiliation. The real question
abused spouses allow themselves to be placed
in a position for abuse?
There is no simple answer. However, here is a list of most common reasons.
Is there help? Yes!!-But first you must be willing to help yourself before anyone can help you. Admitting there is a problem is the first big step. The second thing you need to do is seek advice from a member of the clergy, mental health professional, marriage support groups or an attorney in your community. Many communities offer free support groups and places you and the children can go and stay in times of crisis. Check it out so the next time you are prepared to take the right steps for you and the children.
time to stay
away or not.
can give you
Never use domestic violence as a
way to instigate an altercation
because you are trying to get
your spouse out of the house.
This could boomerang against you
and now you are on the
defensive. Judges are keenly
aware that there is room for
reverse abuse by using the
statutes solely for self gain
and to get custody of the
children as the first strike in
a custody battle. You could
loose and so do the children.
When you go to Court many advocacy groups can assist you at nominal charge or for free. If you know that you need and want a final break in the relationship and you are ready to help yourself, then contact a lawyer in your community to assist you. He can help you prepare for your trial. He understands the judicial process and can help you from making a mistake that could lead to a denial of a domestic violence order. Be prepared to have witnesses, bring photos and medical records.
Don't be a statistic. You need to help yourself before anyone can help you. Your future depends on what you do.
Victims of Violence in the U.S.
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