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Ten Things You Need to Do If Divorce Is Imminent

By Debra J. Braselton, Esquire

1. Consult an Attorney

Becoming informed about your legal rights and responsibilities is the most crucial step in the divorce process. An experienced divorce attorney will be able to counsel you on the law as it applies to the facts of your situation and advise you on the best way to proceed (or not proceed!). One example is illustrative. You and your spouse are constantly fighting and the arguments are causing great distress to your children. Your spouse refuses to move out. You decide to take the children and live at your parents' house until the divorce is final, at which time you will move back to the marital home. From a legal point of view, moving to your parents' home, even temporarily, could be a huge mistake. This is just one of the many things a divorce attorney will discuss with you during a consultation.

2. Copy Documents A little planning goes a long way in this area because it is much more difficult to obtain these documents through discovery procedures at a later date. Go through the household files and make copies of everything you can find: tax returns, bank statements, check registers, investment statements, retirement account statements, employee benefits handbooks, life insurance policies, mortgage documents, financial statements, credit card statements, wills, social security statements, automobile titles, Etc. If your spouse is self-employed, it is important to get as much information about the finances of the business as possible. If you are unaware of the family finances and haven't yet discussed your plans for divorce, the best source of information may be your spouse. Suggest that you and your spouse do a financial statement so that you are both aware of the family finances. Don't forget to check the home computer as a source of financial information. Many people keep track of their finances using spreadsheets or budgeting software. Make copies of any financial data stored on your home computer.

3. Inventory Household and Family Possessions

You need not make an exhaustive list including every single kitchen utensil, but do list the major items: furniture, artwork, jewelry, appliances, automobiles, etc. Don't forget to check the storage areas of your home and your safe deposit box for valuables.

4. Know the Household Budget and Expenses

If possible, go through your check register for the past year and write down the cost of each utility, mortgage and other household expense for each month. Keep track of the cash you spend on a daily basis so that you'll be able to ascertain your monthly cash expenditures also. Knowledge of your household expenses is important at the beginning of the case, when temporary support is often an issue. It is also important during settlement of the case, when you will make a realistic appraisal of your ability to afford the home after divorce.

5. Determine How to Manage the Family Debt

If possible, sit down and determine the amount of family debt and consider paying it down before divorce. Allocation of marital debt among divorcing spouses is one of the most difficult items to negotiate. The funds that were formerly available to support one household must now support two households and there is less money available to pay off debt. If you have the leisure of planning when you will initiate divorce proceedings, pay down marital debt before filing for divorce. Consider canceling credit cards if your spouse has a bad spending habit. This will, hopefully, minimize the financial damage that your spouse can do during the divorce. While taking stock of debt, determine whether any of the debt was incurred by one spouse or another prior to the date of marriage. This would be considered 'non-marital debt' and it belongs to the spouse who incurred it.

6. Find Out Exactly What Your Spouse Earns

If your spouse earns a regular salary, it is easy to look at a pay stub to determine his/her income. However, if your spouse is self-employed, owns a business or gets paid any portion of his/her income in cash, it is much more difficult to determine his/her income. If your spouse has a business partner, you may be able to learn how the partners are paid during a casual conversation with the partner. If your spouse is self-employed or gets paid in cash, keep track of the money flowing in for several months.

7. Make a Realistic Appraisal of Your Earning Potential

Perhaps you have been out of the workforce for a while and have been devoting yourself to childrearing. Assess what your current employability is and whether furthering your education prior to divorce would benefit you in the long run. Perhaps your current job requires extensive travel and your spouse is the one who looks after the children while you are traveling. Is it realistic for you to continue to travel after divorce when you won't have a spouse to provide childcare? If additional childcare will be necessary after divorce, explore what types of childcare are available in your area and what the costs are.

8. Examine Your Own Credit History

If you do not have credit cards in your own name, apply for them now, use them and establish your own credit history. If you have a poor credit history, try to pay creditors now and improve your own credit rating prior to divorce.

9. Build a "Nest Egg" of Your Own

Even if divorce is a remote possibility, you should always have access to money of your own. If your spouse moves out and stops paying bills, you will need to pay them until temporary support orders can be entered. If you are the one who is going to file for divorce, you'll need money for a retainer. If you envision moving out of the marital home, you may need money for a security deposit and for household items. Start saving now and plan to initiate divorce proceedings when you have built up a nest egg of your own.

10. Put Your Kids at the Top of Your Agenda

As you realize that a divorce is imminent, you will undoubtedly spend lots time researching, collecting documents, interviewing attorneys, etc. Even though these activities take up much of your time, you must still put your children first. Of all of the parties to a divorce, children are the ones who often suffer the most. During the divorce process, keep your children's routines as normal as possible. If you and your spouse are arguing in front of the children - stop. If you and your spouse cannot be together with the children without arguing, create a schedule of separate times for each of you to be with the children. Stay involved (or become involved) in your children's school, sports and social activities. Do not badmouth your spouse to your children. Do not use the children as your source of psychological support. Children need and deserve the love and attention of both of their parents before, during and after divorce. Put your children first in your life.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR Debra J. Braselton handles cases involving divorce, custody, visitation, domestic violence, guardianship and adoption in Cook, DuPage, Kane and surrounding Counties. She is an experienced family law attorney with a unique background and a career built around families. Her clients benefit from her experience and enjoy her unique sensitivity to the personal nature of their family law matters.

She can be contacted by phone at (630) 645-2225 or email her at or visit her web site at

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